Coaching Fundamentals
What is a "circular question" in coaching?
Structured input from a client's manager, peers, reports, and others, often anonymised, that surfaces blind spots and becomes raw material for coaching conversations.
A question that explores relationships and patterns between people or parts of a system, e.g., "When your manager behaves that way, what does your team then do?"
Listening from the emerging future — listening to what wants to happen, not only what is already there. Requires the coach to suspend old habits and judgments.
The first session(s) where coach and client agree the focus, ground rules, logistics, confidentiality, and what success will look like at the end of the engagement.
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What is "levels of evaluation" for coaching impact (Kirkpatrick-style)?
The coachee imagines themselves one step closer to their goal and describes what is different — perspective, environment, behaviours, feelings — to surface new actions.
A collaborative, conversation-based process that helps individuals identify goals, overcome obstacles, and unlock their potential through guided questioning and reflection.
Reaction (how the coachee felt), learning (what they learned), behaviour (what they did differently), and results (organisational outcomes such as engagement, retention, or performance).
A model in which behaviour sits above the surface and patterns, structures, mental models, and beliefs sit below — coaching often works at the deeper levels.
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What is the difference between coaching and therapy?
A set of questions designed to recover deleted, distorted, or generalised information in a client's language — e.g., "What specifically?", "According to whom?", "How do you know?"
A Topic/Theme stage at the start: the coach and client agree the broad area of focus before narrowing into a specific Goal, giving the session a clear anchor.
Listening not only to words but to tone, pace, body, emotion, and what is unsaid — and reflecting back what is heard without adding the coach's own material.
Therapy often addresses clinical issues, diagnoses, and healing the past. Coaching is typically forward-focused on goals, performance, and development for non-clinical populations.
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What is the role of "non-violent communication" (NVC) in coaching?
NVC separates observations from evaluations, and feelings from needs, helping clients express themselves clearly and make requests that are more likely to be met.
Self-awareness is the client's clearer understanding of their patterns, emotions, assumptions, and choices.
The coachee imagines themselves one step closer to their goal and describes what is different — perspective, environment, behaviours, feelings — to surface new actions.
Team development trains a group in skills. Team coaching works with the team as a living system — its relationships, purpose, and collective capacity — to shift how it functions.
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What is "co-creating the relationship" in ICF terms?
A collaborative, conversation-based process that helps individuals identify goals, overcome obstacles, and unlock their potential through guided questioning and reflection.
Will or Way Forward — the specific actions the coachee commits to taking, with timelines and accountability mechanisms.
Reaction (how the coachee felt), learning (what they learned), behaviour (what they did differently), and results (organisational outcomes such as engagement, retention, or performance).
Establishing trust and intimacy, coaching presence, and being open, flexible, and confident with the client.
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What is "emotional agility" (Susan David) and how does coaching apply it?
An open-ended question that provokes thought, uncovers assumptions, or creates new awareness — e.g., "What would you do if you knew you couldn't fail?"
How progress, themes, and outcomes are communicated back to the organisation funding the coaching. Must be agreed up front to protect confidentiality and trust.
The ability to recognise, label, and choose response to emotions rather than being driven by them. Coaching builds it through noticing, normalising, naming, and acting.
Goal — the specific outcome or target the coachee wants to achieve. Goals should be clear, meaningful, and ideally measurable.
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What is "cognitive defusion"?
Being fully conscious and present with the client — bringing open, flexible, confident attention to the interaction without judgment or a pre-set agenda.
Open questions, Affirmations, Reflections, Summaries — a conversational toolkit used both in MI and in coaching to deepen and direct the conversation.
The client believes that holding the highest standards is what produces the best results, but perfectionism often produces avoidance, procrastination, and burnout. Coaches help clients trade it for "excellent enough."
Stepping back from a thought so that it is experienced as a thought, not as a literal truth — e.g., "I notice I'm having the thought that I am not good enough."
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What is the difference between "executive coaching" and "leadership coaching"?
A set of conditions — attention, ease, equality, appreciation, encouragement, feelings, information, diversity, incisive questions — that produce independent thinking.
A coaching session outcome is the practical clarity, insight, or commitment the client leaves with after the conversation.
Executive coaching is tied to a specific role and business outcomes. Leadership coaching focuses on the person's overall leadership capacity, identity, and presence, often beyond a single role.
Open questions, Affirmations, Reflections, Summaries — a conversational toolkit used both in MI and in coaching to deepen and direct the conversation.
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What is "values clarification" in coaching?
Listening not only to words but to tone, pace, body, emotion, and what is unsaid — and reflecting back what is heard without adding the coach's own material.
A process of helping the client name what matters most to them at a principles level, then auditing current choices against those values to reveal where action is misaligned.
A collaborative, conversation-based process that helps individuals identify goals, overcome obstacles, and unlock their potential through guided questioning and reflection.
A question that explores relationships and patterns between people or parts of a system, e.g., "When your manager behaves that way, what does your team then do?"
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What is the difference between coaching and facilitation?
The ability to recognise, label, and choose response to emotions rather than being driven by them. Coaching builds it through noticing, normalising, naming, and acting.
Facilitation guides a group process to achieve a shared output. Coaching focuses on the individual's thinking, awareness, and action.
Problem-focused coaching explores causes and history; solution-focused coaching directs energy toward what the desired future looks like and how to get there.
A question that explores relationships and patterns between people or parts of a system, e.g., "When your manager behaves that way, what does your team then do?"
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What is "alliance rupture" in coaching?
Silence gives the coachee space to think, reflect, and reach their own insights. Comfortable silence is a sign of skillful coaching, not awkwardness.
The collaborative bond: a felt sense of being on the same side, with mutual trust, agreed purpose, and emotional safety. Considered the most reliable predictor of coaching outcomes.
ICF (International Coaching Federation), EMCC (European Mentoring & Coaching Council), and AC (Association for Coaching) are the three largest global professional coaching bodies, each with its own accreditation framework.
A moment when the coaching relationship strains — the client withdraws, resists, or challenges. Ruptures, when repaired, often deepen the work.